Hey guys I’m back to plow you with some Glory Swag nuggets. Sorry for delaying gear. I have been on an amazing journey with Abba for the last 4 months, getting prez out. I have needed time for myself & my family. Anyway, let’s get back to some Glory Swag advice. Before I start on rig,
I just wanted to say a couple things about Glory Swag:
1.) It’s just a fun name!!! Relax peeps I’m not trying to make you cool or swagged out. I’m going at relationships from MY angle and MY experiences with MY humor & MY style of speaking & the way I relate to this generation of revivalists. There is no need to fret.
2) My motoe for Glory Swag is simple: I LOVE PEEPS!!! I love the relationships that I have with peeps, and I love being able to be used by Abba to p
low peeps about relationship. Most importantly, I love being an example of sonship and having young peeps see the Fathers affection for me and loving me just the way I am, sneakers, beard, fitted caps, jokes and all. He loves my jokes. He laughs at my funnies. He makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. You know what I’m saying?
Well like Dr.Dre said” Back to the lesson at hand” haha. Let’s talk about Confidence. One thing I see happening with young men’s pursuit of young women is the lack of confidence. This is not a good thing fellas. It’s a sign of weakness in yourself. Sons of God listen to me. I am not talking about being shy. I know lots of shy guys that have confidence but just like to be quiet. I’m talking about that mentality like “Hey, I like u, but I have nothing to give u so I’ll play the weak one and hopefully she’ll like me (poor me)” OR!!!!!! “Let me not act pressed and see if she bites first so I will play a lesser role so I won’t get hurt.”. Wow! Those are not attitudes that you want to have in starting a conversation with someone you find attractive. The first one is letting your wounds do the wooing and the other is fake confidence. Both are nothing more than manipulation and are poor ways to get or impress females.
I was both of those things at one point in my life. I too used to believe that I had nothing to offer females because I was poor and too husky. But one of the things I learned is that I would much rather have a young lady like me for the strengths I carry than like me because she wants to help me. I realized that I didn’t want pity . First of all, this never got me a girlfriend. (Just Saying) Second of all, when I didn’t want to be fixed or pitied anymore, they stopped wanting to be my friend because I became so annoyed by their efforts. That then led me to the other extreme: MIND GAMES.
Fellas, don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about. You start throwing game to see if a young lady likes you. When she shows interest, you pull away to make yourself feel like you’re the prize and she needs to fight for you and try to figure you out. This all comes out of insecurity and a fear of rejection. When you do this, you callous your heart and cannot experience authentic relationship. You must know the first thing about any relationship: the foundation is love, and love is sacrificial…not selfish. Like my Pastor says, when you open yourself to love you also open yourself to hurt. It comes with the territory. I started to find out that I was hurting young ladies out of my own fear of rejection. This made me unsafe to young ladies because they were at my disposal. I should have been protecting but instead I passed my rejection on to them. When I
got this revelation, my heart broke because instead of bringing happiness and laughter to my lady friends, I became the source a wound for them. If I had found my confidence in the Lord, I would have understood that my role was to love people because I love Him. I can’t change the way others react or if they will hurt me, but I can make sure to take responsibility for myself.
My biggest advice in these two areas is this: In the pursuit, you will make mistakes. Use your young adult years to practice being transparent with Abba…He is the Father of light. In Him, nothing is hidden from you. Learn now how to expose insecurities for your Father to shine His light in you to show you what’s lurking in the deep places of your heart. Ask your father that you would see in him the strengths that you have to overcome these weaknesses. Also, you have to roll with a community of friends that you can trust and will be honest with you without judgement no matter what you are going through. The New Testament Church understood the value of being in a covenantal community. Let other’s strengths help to build you up instead of using others to feed your weaknesses. DROP!
Well, that was a lot of information! Next time, let’s talk about eye contact and how to walk in that confidence! Remember peeps, I was a client, now I’m the company president.
Glory Swag Slang Translations
- Glory= a state of high honor
- Swag= style, coolness, confident
- Nuggets= Golden packages of wisdom for yo soul Rig= Blog
- Gear = Whatever you want it to be
- Drop = the new Amen / Hallelujah
- Water = Peace out
- Prez= Presence
- Peeps= People
- Fret= freak out
- Game= signals
- Plow= teach (but it has different meaning for different season of your life) Ha
- Motoe= motivation
- Pressed= interested
Photos by Michelle Miller